Tuesday, March 15, 2016




What will you do with your year...

The Three Stonecutters...
Once upon a time, there was a traveler who came upon three individuals working with stone. Curious as to what the workers were doing with the stones, the traveler approached the first worker and asked, “What are you doing with these stones?” Grumpily and without hesitation the worker quickly responded, “I am a stonecutter and I am cutting stones.”
Not satisfied with this answer, the traveler approached the second worker and asked, “What are you doing with these stones?” The second worker paused for a moment, sighed, but smiled a little and then explained, “I am a stonecutter and I am trying to make enough money to support my family.”
Having two different answers to the same question, the traveler made his way to the third worker and asked, “What are you doing with these stones?” The third worker stopped what he was doing, bringing his chisel to his side. He looked at the traveler with a beaming smile on his face and declared, “I am a stonecutter and ...“I am building a cathedral.”

I can hardly believe it is already March! I can't believe how fast the year is moving forward. How are you doing with your Goals?! Are they SMART goals...Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Timed!? It's time to make some decisions and step forward into your Brave New World! You have a cathedral to build!

I'm tired of hearing phrases like 

"I don't care"
"It doesn't Matter" 
I'm indifferent" 
"It's just OK"
Even Clark Gable's "I don't give a damn, my dear" is unacceptable!

They sound ungrateful, mediocre and unenthusiastic. Life is meant to be lived out loud, and enjoyed every second. As widows, we learn all too soon what is like to lose your soulmate, your best friend, your life long partner with whom you  have dreamed big and made plans - now all cancelled and gone forever. And yet we move forward...It's important to have goals. You must set goals and work hard to keep your goals alive by measuring them often.  I saw Whiskey Tango Foxtrot, a true story about a reporter's work in Afghanistan during the war --I won't spoil the plot for you, but one of the soldiers tells the reporter that you must learn to "Hug the 'suck' and then move the 'f...' forward." I laughed out loud! It is soooo true. 

Whatever you are going though, know that suffering brings healing --It brings us closer to God. This is a sad fact which is true.  You will not truly be the person you were meant to be until you live your life fully...sometimes we suffer but we always learn during those times and then we take a step, tiny as it may be, and move on. 

Forward, Up, Over, Through, Just move!! #2016=DO!

I have been threatening to take a spin class for years. My twin daughters and I hold each other very accountable for good healthy living - including working out and eating well - I was talking with Claire and I mentioned the spin class again. She said "Madre, you've  been taking about spin for years... just do it already! - Make a commitment to take a class this week!" And so I did. I can't stand a dare and so i took the next spin class. My goal -- no matter how hard... was to stay ON THE BIKE FOR ONE HOUR! I didn't have to pedal or go fast, just hold on tight and stay on! My butt hurt. It was hard. You have to get up and down several times. I couldn't get the seat and handlebars right... blah blah blah... but I stayed on! Now, two months in, I love it! I'm addicted! I get up at 4:30am in the morning to walk Miss Sadie and go to spin! I'm not the best, but I'm not the worst either. I just do it. 
Quite complaining and pick ONE THING FOR YOU TODAY. Don't Wait. #2016=DO!

I have learned recently that not making a decision is indeed making a decision. Don't settle for mediocre - Not in a job, or a relationship, or a flower pot. Work on getting to Fabulous... Fabulous is better: It's about living,  it's about being passionate, it's about laughing, singing, crying, loving, falling down, standing up and doing it all over again. 

We know that today could be your last day.. LIVE IT... LIVE IT UP! Enjoy ever second. Just DO IT! Do it for you and for me and for widows and women and children and pets everywhere. Do it for you, for your family, for your friends, for your coworkers...Be a good, healthy example of all that life can be. It is not what we have, it is what we are made of. I'm asking you to Get your GUMPTION on! Live your life to the very fullest... 
Make it FABULOUS because YOU deserve it! #2016=DO!

“The longer I love, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company...a church....a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude...I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you...we are in charge of our attitudes.” Charles R. Swindoll 

I love you!


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