Friday, February 13, 2015


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails. 
Corinthians 13:4-8 New International Version

I love you for all that you are, all that you have been and all you’re yet to be.

Love is a verb

We are here because we have been loved. We are a creation of Love. God loves us. Our parents love us. Our friends love us. We are loved. We are loved, and we have lost love. We are sad. We hurt. We are scared. We cry. We hope to climb out of our grief. How do we crawl out of this pit of despair? We do SOMETHING for someone… Anything for Anyone. Pick one thing you can do TODAY, right now for someone else.  Love is a verb – doing something for someone can save you from bitterness. Do it. I promise

Love Takes Practice

Nicole and Brian had their first child and my first grandson this past year. As young parents, I’m so enjoying watching them grow into all they were born to be. They have really adopted a TEAM approach to raising young Andrew. It is amazing to me how their Tag Team works so well! I’m amazed by their enthusiasm and commitment. Sometimes they make me smile as I remember…. They say”Tomorrow we will be better parents…” and I know they will. There is no doubt in my mind that Andrew is completely and unconditionally LOVED.  I used to write on my mirror when twin girls were young: “YOU ARE THE PARENT!” It’s true. We are the only parents our children get. We shouldn’t forget that. They will have other friends but we must be their loving parents and that takes practice. Do it. I promise…

Love Listens

At 4:45am I get a text from my daughter, Claire. She’s on her way to work at the hospital. I answer. I listen. I love her. She knows I’m there, accommodating my schedule to meet hers, so we can love together as we listen to each other’s lives. Listen to each other with all your heart. God gives us really big hearts to share. I remember when I was expecting our son Chris, we had twin daughters that were 8 and I didn’t know how I could love another human being as much as I needed to. I could! He was born, and my heart filled with so much love, it was truly exponential! I adored him immediately! I used to tell him before he fell asleep after our evening prayers that I loved him more that life itself. It’s true. I do. He hated to hear it, but he knew I believed it. It carries him still. Once when he was away in France with my family and I was home, he sent me a one line email (Chris is a man of very few words!).  It read: “I would swim across the ocean just to see your face.” At that very moment I knew that he would know forever how very much I love him.  Still. Always. Forever. We limit ourselves. There is no boundary on love. Love has no limits. Claire is going to Guatemala soon. She will give medical care for hundreds of under served children needing health, and love. She will love them with all her heart and yet we – her family, her friends, her coworkers – we won’t lose a thing. Because she can listen and love at the same time. She will leave a part of herself there, they will feel her love, but she will still have plenty more left for the rest of us for the rest of her life.

Love Laughs

Life is hard. Sometimes, life is very hard. It just doesn't seem we can make it through the very next second, minute, let alone another day… Really, God? But we can and we do. We Love. We Laugh. We Survive. And we begin again to LIVE.  I know each of you reading these lines have struggles in your lives. But I want to remind you its ok to laugh. To live out loud. To enjoy every single moment of the day, good or bad. I promise there is a pearl waiting for you there tucked in the veil of pain and suffering. There have been days when I’m sobbing so hard, my body is wracked with grief. And then it is almost as if I’m looking down on myself and I say to myself, “Its ok. We can do this – God and I.” Really, we can. And sometimes I laugh. I just laugh out loud to feel good again. To upright myself. To hang on to life when we want to die. You have to. You just have to. I always tried to make Kevin laugh – every day. It was a secret, personal goal of mine for my marriage. I never told him. I just did it. Most days, amazingly enough, even during the pain and suffering of a long term illness, I was successful. I brought him joy and laughter. We shared love and laughter for over 40 years. Today, share a smile, give a wink, go ahead laugh. I promise you’ll feel better. Do it.

Love lends a hand…

A good friend of mine’s son serves in our military. She helped me find a group of young Military Wives Club and this month our Modern Widows Club wrote them Love Notes. We sent Love Notes to 13 women we have never meant and yet, we loved them. We told them. We will pray for them and hold them near us in our hearts. We kept their names so we will remember them. We will share. We will do. We will serve. We will survive because we have loved.  When you think your heart is broken and you are so lonely you only want to die, lend a hand. Help a neighbor. Cook a meal. Volunteer. Share. Help. Get outside your comfort zone and do one thing for someone else. Lend a hand. Be a friend. . I promise you’ll feel better. Do it.

Love loves again
Love can always create more love. Don’t limit yourself. Even when you think you have nothing left to give, you have more love. Always! You have more and more love to give. We are a vessel. God fills us. He fills us up over and over and over again. We chose each day to love or not to love. It is up to us. It is up to you. If you open your heart up just a tiny bit to love another, it is like a door opening up to a field of bright sunshine right outside…. Let it in. Breathe deep and love again. It can be so heard to be vulnerable again, to be yourself again, to breathe again, and to step just outside the door of your broken heart to let it heal and love again. Painful, I tell you. But if you do, you won’t believe how good it feels to love another. To love again, to share your life and your love, with those around you. I promise it will help heal you. Do it.

Love is Love is Forever Love
Love always. Love is forever. It is boundless. It never dies. It doesn't go away. It may change, but it is there. I told our minister days before Kevin passed that I believed love was eternal. That even though we both new Kevin was passing on to a new place, our love would last forever. We would still love each other in two places, both heaven and earth, simultaneously. And forever. Our love has no boundaries. I feel him reach down from heaven and wrap his arms around me all the time; a misplaced ray of sunshine that gently graces my cheek on my way home from work. A kiss from heaven,  the bright sliver of a moon and star shining down for me on my morning walk with Miss Sadie.  He is all around me. I can feel him hold me. Embracing me. Loving me. He smiles down on me and all our family. Always. Forever. Love never ends. It is boundless. It surrounds you. It holds you up. I promise. Believe it. Do it!

Love Is a Verb

John Mayer

Love is a verb
It isn’t a thing
It's not something you hold
It's not something you scream
When you show me love,
I don't need your words
Yeah, love isn’t a thing
Love is a verb
Love isn’t a thing
Love is a verb
Love isn’t a crutch
It isn’t an excuse
No, you can't get through love
On just a pile of I.O.U.s
Love isn’t a drug
Despite what you've heard
Yeah, love isn’t a thing
Love is a verb
Love isn’t a thing
Love is a verb

So you gotta show show show me
(show show show me)
Show show show me
That love is a verb
Yeah, you gotta show show show me
(show show show me)